Rise and shine, pleasure seekers!
Sarah Douglass here, the editor-in-chief of PSYN Media & founder of Pussynomics™, a women+’s pleasure advocacy company. From all of us at PSYN, here’s to being curious, being bold, and letting this Q&A whisper something new to you. xx.
This morning we’re waking up with Jimanekia Eborn. She’s a Comprehensive Sex Educator and Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert with over a decade of experience. Jimanekia is the founder of Tending the Garden, a healing space for marginalized survivors of sexual assault. Her path has taken her from rape crisis counseling to psychology training to mental health facilities across California. At every step, her mission has been the same: uplift survivors and help them reclaim joy, community, and strength. As both an expert and a survivor herself, Jimanekia brings compassion, candor, and deep wisdom to every conversation. Let’s dive in…
Right now, what’s turning you on—culturally, creatively, or sexually?
What is turning me on currently is flexibility. Flexibility in my physical body and the movement of it all. As well as being flexible myself. As I grow older and feel more secure with my partner(s), I am trying new things. Feeling safe turns me on.
Do you have a ritual, tool, or practice that helps you connect to your own pleasure?
I am a human who, my friends will tell you, loves to take care of myself. It may be a trauma response, in the ways that others don't or haven't shown up for me. I am a self-care and self-soothe QUEEN. I really choose myself. I love body massages, silence, and reading. I own an extensive collection of toys due to my work. However, like many of us, I also use the same few things. That cordless magic wand and I are really close.
What do you wish people talked about more openly when it comes to sex & pleasure?
I wish people talked more about the expansion of sex and pleasure. I want them to know it isn’t just about penetration. I wish people knew that your biggest sex organ is your brain. So, if you have things going on, it may be a struggle. I hope people were more explorative and open to trying new things, rather than navigating through shame.
If we peeked at your “pleasure playlist,” what’s on it?
Whew, my pleasure playlist consists of yummy teas, weighted blankets, watching horror movies, and psychological films. I love a good audiobook and a solo dance party.
However, if I am with others, it depends on the situation. I want to snuggle up with that person and laugh. I might try new foods. I loveee pleasure playlist. Curate that shit in a way that feels good for you.
What’s one myth or misconception about pleasure you’d love to debunk?
I want to take healing off a pedestal when it comes to trauma, specifically sexual trauma. I constantly want to kick it down. Not because I do not believe that we all deserve it. But I want us to navigate through it truthfully. In its fluidity, it is flexible and can change. We must be adaptable and open to what it looks like, as well as how it appears different for each of us.
What’s one lesson you’ve learned on your pleasure journey that you’d want others to know?
[You] aren't weird for the things you like. And you will find other people, other partners who want the same thing as you. So keep looking and keep trying. They are out there. Have fun, be safe… and trust yourself.
✨ Jimanekia’s Plug
Want to learn more about her trauma-informed practice? Check out traumaqueen.love and follow @Jimanekia for resources, insights, and honest conversations about healing, sexuality, and survivor support. And check out Tending the Garden, a community space created specifically for marginalized survivors of sexual assault. Donate, connect, or get involved at tendingthegarden.love — every contribution helps grow this sacred space for healing.
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